The very word is so negative, therefore, it is imaginable what an impact it can have on victims of anyone's anger. Is anger necessary? Controllable? Avoidable? Is it the worst of the vices? Is there any benefit that it may ever accrue?
Anger accompanies a sense of power that one feels one has over things, people, relationships, circumstances and it emanates from negation of or challenge to that authority. The slightest feel of disobedience or intimidation or denial causes huge surge of anger.
Anger is mirror to any unrest, malaise, unease which permeates inside howsoever undefinable. The more ambiguous this feel, the more violent the expression of anger. Anger may be triggered by a small thing but once it gets vent, it becomes a no-holds-barred situation where reason and rationality take a backseat, patience turns its face away, compassion becomes conspicuous by absence, love gets lost (for a while atleast).
Anger is not an uncommon phenomenon. We see everyone besieged by Anger's sting: Bosses, Parents, Children, employees, politicians, powerful people . Even the saints and sages are not spared by the hideous aura of Anger.
What does it or does it really gain anything? Not sure. But definitely once anger is let loose, it loses a lot of goodwill. It has ample power to cause an irreparable damage to psyche of people and mar the joy of things. I don't think it's ever welcome by anyone howsoever docile, humble, obedient follower one may be in a power relationship. The fear it generates and the extent to which it seems unreasonable (more often than not) casts a spell of gloom, helplessness.
While anyone who is gripped by it has one reason or the other to justify its hold, the victim always feels it is unjustified, uncalled for, un necessary, unjust, unkind..nay rude and rude through and through.
Sometimes we blame it on an unfriendly planetary influence or plain frustration caused by someone or something else but invariably the one who gets blasted is a wrong person at a wrong moment.
It is much better to know how to handle it by counting 1-5 before giving it an expression or to do some 'anulom vilom' or plain inhale deeply ,exhale deeply exercises or to do some 'mantras' jap or do whatever that can be done before this takes over the better of our self, lays a seige, seizes us by collar and makes us utter words which are not in normal parlance ever used by us. More importantly, the tone and tenor and gestrual nuances that are not associated with us generally sneak their way out to hit hard the way evn the words cannot damage.
The aftermath of anger almost always creates a sense of sorrow, suffering by victim and repentance, sorry feeling by the angry person. In the world of 21st century when familial relationships are waning, soft feelings of love and compassion, affection and selflessness have become rare, negative expressions like anger and rage are not tolerable by anyone. The sharp reactions are not uncommon and the outbursts of protest against this negative feeling with more negative, violent and hostile output are testimony of Anger's non acceptance. God forbid, if ever one encounters an angry saint or sage, it is such a belittling, demeaning feeling-catastrophic beyond any shadow of doubt.
Life is too short. It calls for celebration. Feelings of love, affection, compassion, empathy make the world a better place to live in and fill it with richness. Lets not mar this enrichment with negativity and feel of penury that Anger has the ability to cause.
Anger accompanies a sense of power that one feels one has over things, people, relationships, circumstances and it emanates from negation of or challenge to that authority. The slightest feel of disobedience or intimidation or denial causes huge surge of anger.
Anger is mirror to any unrest, malaise, unease which permeates inside howsoever undefinable. The more ambiguous this feel, the more violent the expression of anger. Anger may be triggered by a small thing but once it gets vent, it becomes a no-holds-barred situation where reason and rationality take a backseat, patience turns its face away, compassion becomes conspicuous by absence, love gets lost (for a while atleast).
Anger is not an uncommon phenomenon. We see everyone besieged by Anger's sting: Bosses, Parents, Children, employees, politicians, powerful people . Even the saints and sages are not spared by the hideous aura of Anger.
What does it or does it really gain anything? Not sure. But definitely once anger is let loose, it loses a lot of goodwill. It has ample power to cause an irreparable damage to psyche of people and mar the joy of things. I don't think it's ever welcome by anyone howsoever docile, humble, obedient follower one may be in a power relationship. The fear it generates and the extent to which it seems unreasonable (more often than not) casts a spell of gloom, helplessness.
While anyone who is gripped by it has one reason or the other to justify its hold, the victim always feels it is unjustified, uncalled for, un necessary, unjust, unkind..nay rude and rude through and through.
Sometimes we blame it on an unfriendly planetary influence or plain frustration caused by someone or something else but invariably the one who gets blasted is a wrong person at a wrong moment.
It is much better to know how to handle it by counting 1-5 before giving it an expression or to do some 'anulom vilom' or plain inhale deeply ,exhale deeply exercises or to do some 'mantras' jap or do whatever that can be done before this takes over the better of our self, lays a seige, seizes us by collar and makes us utter words which are not in normal parlance ever used by us. More importantly, the tone and tenor and gestrual nuances that are not associated with us generally sneak their way out to hit hard the way evn the words cannot damage.
The aftermath of anger almost always creates a sense of sorrow, suffering by victim and repentance, sorry feeling by the angry person. In the world of 21st century when familial relationships are waning, soft feelings of love and compassion, affection and selflessness have become rare, negative expressions like anger and rage are not tolerable by anyone. The sharp reactions are not uncommon and the outbursts of protest against this negative feeling with more negative, violent and hostile output are testimony of Anger's non acceptance. God forbid, if ever one encounters an angry saint or sage, it is such a belittling, demeaning feeling-catastrophic beyond any shadow of doubt.
Life is too short. It calls for celebration. Feelings of love, affection, compassion, empathy make the world a better place to live in and fill it with richness. Lets not mar this enrichment with negativity and feel of penury that Anger has the ability to cause.
इस बार आपकी रचना ने आपका नारी स्वरूप दर्शा दिया ।
ReplyDeleteएक एक मोती को महीन से धागे में पिरोना , फिर मोतियों की बनावट चमक का ख्याल रखना यही एक माला को साधारण से खूबसूरत और खूबसूरत से अनमोल बनाता है । जब मोतियों का स्थान शब्द ले लें तो माला का स्थान रचना ले लेती है । इतना महीन काम पुरूषों के बस का नहीं । शब्दों का चयन, स्थापन , संयम फिर कारीगरी । ये सब विधाएं एक साथ बेहतरीन अनुपात में केवल नारी के पास ही मिल सकती हैं ।
आपकी रचना के शब्द ह्रदय पर ऐसे गिरते हैं जैसे वर्षा की बूंदें किसी म्र्रतप्रायः मीन पर पड़ी हों और वो जीवंत हो जल के बड़े स्त्रोत से मिलने को व्याकुल हो उठती है । जब आप जैसी उच्च अधिकारी इतनी व्यस्तताओं के बावज़ूद रचनात्मक लेखन के लिये समय निकाल लेती हैं तो लगता है कि मेरे पास आपकी व्यस्तताओं का दसवां अंश भी नहीं फिर मुझे एक प्रतिक्रिया देने का समय तो निकलना ही चाहिये ।
*काम क्रोध लोभ मोह अहंकार* नामक पँचाम्रत के परिवार के एक सदस्य को आपने अपनी भावनायें व्यक्त करने का माध्यम चुना । बाकी सदस्यों पर भी भविष्य में आपकी विवेचना पढ़ना निश्चित रूप से रोचक रहेगा ।
*पँचाम्रत* शब्द अलंकरण इसलिये क्योंकि सम्पूर्ण जीवन का आधार यही पांच तत्व हैं ।
शयद इन्हीं से पंचतत्व बने हैं ।
क्रोध का स्त्रोत तो निश्चित रूप से अग्नि ही है ।
बाकी तत्वों के स्त्रोतों का मेल फिर कभी ।
जब पांच मूल तत्व
जल ,अग्नि ,वायु , पृथ्वी और आकाश जीवनस्त्रोत हैं तो इनके स्त्रोत इतने त्याज्य क्यों ?
केवल इसलिए क्योंकि इनकी अधिकता विनाशकारी है ।
इनका बिगड़ा अनुपात विध्वंसक है । केवल इसलिए हमारे मनीषियों ने हमें इनसे सदा थोड़ा डरा कर ही रखा ।
क्या काम के बिना जीवन की कल्पना की जा सकती है ?
*काम* :
काम में निहित आनंद प्रकृति प्रदत्त उपहार है जीवन को आगे बढ़ाने का ।
*क्रोध* :
क्रोध मात्र एक चेतावनी है । करने वाले के लिये भी और सहने वाले के लिये भी । क्रोध हमारे रक्त संचार को बढ़ा कर , आँख कान स्पर्श की इंद्रियों को सचेत करके शरीर में तुरंत ऊर्जा भरता है और हमारा ये रूप देख कर , आवेशित आवाज सुन कर सामने वाला प्राणी तुरंत पहचान सकता है कि हम हानि पहुंचाने को तत्पर हों रहे हैं । यदि वो हमारे प्रति किये अपकार या नुकसान बंद नहीं करेगा तो हमारे क्रोध का भागी बनेगा ।
अन्यथा हम गलतियों पर सबको मारते नष्ट करते चले जायेंगे ।
कोई पशु हमें मारना नहीं चाहता । अधिकतर पशु हम पर अपने आप को बचाने के लिये हमला करते हैं ।
शेर कि दहाड़ में क्रोध है ।
सांप की फुफकार में क्रोध है ।
बंदर की घुड्कि में क्रोध है तो गीदड की भभकी में भी क्रोध है ।
ये दहाड़ फुफकार किसी को मारते नहीं ।
केवल चेतावनी देते हैं । यदि हमें हानि पहुंचाना चाहते हो तो भाग जाओ ।
यदि मेरे शिकार का एक भाग हो तो स्वस्थ वंश भाग कर अपना जीवन बचा ले व कमज़ोर को मैं भोजन बना लूंगा ।
यदि आँख दिखाने से और दांत पीसने से मेरा विपक्षी शत्रु भाग जाये तो वो क्रोध हम दोनों में से एक का जीवन रक्षक ही हुआ ।
Anger : What does it or does it really gain anything? Not sure
ये आपके ही शब्द हैं । Not sure कह कर आपने एक सम्भावना को स्थान दिया जिसका प्रयोग मैं कर रहा हूँ ।
The aftermath of anger almost always creates a sense of sorrow, suffering by victim and repentance, sorry feeling by the angry person.
यहां भी 'almost ' लिख कर आपने क्रोध जो कि सर्वथा हानिकारक ही प्रतीत होता है उसके प्रति एक सम्भावना जीवित रखी ।
क्रोध सृष्टि को समाप्त होने से बचाता है । नष्ट करने से पहले की चेतावनी ही क्रोध है ।
विनाश और विनाश की चेतावनी के बीच का बेहद महीन धागा ही क्रोध है । इस महीन से अंतर को समझना अत्यंत दुष्कर है इसलिये आप जैसे मनीषियों ने इस क्रोध से दूरी रखने का संदेश देने में ही हमारी और हम जैसे अन्य प्राणियों की भलाई समझी ।
लोभ , मोह अहंकार भी इसी परिवार के सदस्य हैं जो जीवन के मूल तत्वों से ही बने हैं ।
आभार सहित ,
अमित खनगवाल ।
Fully agreed with your views as you are surely a higher soul. Anger affects the angry person the most in fact. It shoots up BP, take away mental peace and create negative vibrations around. Angry person loses balance of mind so cannot take right decision also till the time he cools down. What I feel is that we can be able to control these negative feelings only if we are naturally so cool which is very rare or we have to practice daily meditation along with good company of spiritual persons and books. Whenever I do meditation, I remain very composed all the day. Meditation is really the most important activity of life which we are missing the most to control all our negative feelings including anger.
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Anger, yes can be disastrous at times. But i also feel that containing the anger can be a bigger disaster, to self specially and evetually to the ones around. Anger if elopes oneself must have ane exit too. ��
ReplyDeleteReally each word is worth to be read 10 times and each time a new positivity comes when you get the meaning.No words to explain the impact of it.
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क्रोध मानवता के लिए सबसे खतरनाक है । मैंने आपके विचारों से बहुत सीखा है । आप महान है । भगवान श्री हरि विष्णु जी आपको ओर आपके परिवार को अच्छा स्वास्थ्य और समस्त खुशिया प्रदान करे ।
ReplyDeleteYou hv focused very well in your write up about anger. Actually, we hv short life there should not be room for anger as u told one should be cautious to handle anger and maintain peace love within surroundings may help to create better environment.
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